Girls it’s me again...unfortunatly.. This selfish email is all about me, sorry dont really go on the web much. ivf failed in jan. did follicle tracking since. Period came and it gone over week ago, last night started getting bad pain and then bleeding - thought "oh no, not another ectopic"..went to hospital today - nothing showed on screen and emergency bloods done - sure enough they are high. Have to wait now until tomorrow for them to know more and decide what to do. Today - as in this date exactly a year ago i had my second ectopic. Can’t believe now that this may be my third. also had miscarriage in december. Seeing my poor husband is breaking my heart...sorry for the moan but I feel i can’t think, talk or express any emotions. Praying they not take my other tube morrow and of course praying be a miracle and there be a little sack when they scan morrow...sorry my emotions all over the place. what do i do if they suggest taking out the other tube? should they try save it or take it out along with the stub. i am gone so scarred of the scanning machine.Please if you can, could you give me some hope..that things can still happen. That we may get pregnant and have normal pregnancy. keep blaming my body..why is it doing this?
Ah you poor poor thing, my heart goes out to you and i hope you can feel my virtual hug.
I am going to be brutally honest here, I hope it's ok.
Your remaining tube is not working properly and is giving you more grief than joy. If they suggest surgery, I would personally go ahead with it, make sure they do a very neat job and tidy up the remaining stump so that this won't happen to you again. Your embryos are superstrong, you get pregnant and it's just that they get stuck where they shouldn't. You say you also had a mc in December, did you get to see the gestational sac?
With IVF you can definitely have a normal pregnancy and add to your family, no question about that, you know you can carry a child to term, but you need to get to the bottom of this now so that you can move on.
Sending you love and positive thoughts, do give us a call if you feel like talking. Keep us posted.
Thanks Mod1 for your kind reply..they decided to go methoxride again and do key hole surgery in 4 weeks time when everything has calmed down inside to get a look at what is going on. I honestly don't know where my head is..I am so scarred at the thought of losing the other tube as what if we cant afford to many IVF and they fail and we have also lost the natural route. I wish there was a real specialist we could talk to. Does any one know of any specialist that really understands ectophics? Feel like a dog going around and around in circles just chasing my tail. On the funny side i can drink my one late now for the moment without feeling guilthy!! Oh I dont know.... I feel it is the unknown with a lot of the medical world. In the mean time we have app with a new clinic on Tue and are wondering should we still go and let them know what going on instead of letting our appointment go. ..decisions, decision I haven't even cried this time - like my body is gone numb...know all the staff in hospital by first name terms now. Would you mind if I gave you a ring just to talk to someone that knows what this is like? Know this sounds stupid but I cant find the number on the site?
Hi Indigo, of course you can call! I don't have the primary phone with me, but one of the girls has it and will take your call, you can tell her you have spoken with me on the forum (i'm Fran) and do let me know if you want to chat to me personally I will turn on the second phone tonight.
Of course! the numbers are 089 4365742 or 089 4382413, the first one is the one always on, I have the second phone (I think!) but as nobody ever rings the second number I don't normally have it on. I'll turn it on as I get home just in case!