I had an ectopic pregnancy, ruptured and lost a tube and a baby, in August. I'm very lucky to have a then 10month old, who is more than a handful and he kept me too busy to dwell on it or to seek out any support at the time.
We're two periods down and now trying again, so I'm concerned a little about getting pregnant but mainly concerned/ obsessing about the possibility of being ectopic again and the implications of losing the second tube or even being ectopic and not losing the tube as my consultant seemed to imply that the damage to the tube would be significant in that case.
I don't even know if I'm pregnant and I'm anxious about the possibility of being ectopic (I was told 10% chance, which feels high) I feel like my anxiety will only heighten if I find out I'm pregnant and then the wait to find out if it's ectopic or not will be excruciating.
Just thought I'd post, as it's helpful to know others have been through the same thing and it's hard to talk about concerns to people who haven't.
HI Rebecca, welcome to the forum! I'm so sorry for you loss of course, and we all know very well about the anxiety of trying again and the what ifs...
10% is more than your average risk (about 3%), but that means that you have 90% chances of being a very fine pregnancy! There isn't anything you can do to prevent it, if you want to can discuss with your consultant if it's worth having a HSG or similar to check the state of the other tube. When you do get pregnant again, i would strongly recommend you check every two days the HCG levels (they should double every two days, any erratic behaviour requires action), you can do this at your GP, and then go for a very early scan, ideally at 5-6 weeks. It is true that ectopics can damage the tube significantly even if it can be treated chemically, but the risk is much less if it's treated sooner rather than later. Please keep us posted! Hugs!