I'm now 2 weeks after having emergency surgery for right tube and baby being removed. It was an emotional rollercoaster, but I was bleeding for 3 weeks prior and knew something wasn't right, even GP and 2 trips to A+E did not pick up on it. Last week I was dissapointed with my physical and mental recovery, but this week feeling much better! The hardest part of the experience was the 3 weeks trying to convince myself that this was a normal pregnancy, and everything was fine.
The reason I say this is, I'm 38 and really want to try again asap. The surgeon said everything else was healthy (this was right after op so head was a bit fuzzy). I get to see Surgeon again in Oct so I'll know better then. But I went to GP to get sick cert, and without knowing many details, she really tried to put me off trying again. I was gutted. She was recommending IVF, but from what I've read it also increases chance of ectopic!
Financially I'd need to rob a bank for IVF. Doc suggested going abroad for it as it's cheaper. Really not how I'd hoped to create my family. My DH has been an absolute rock this past 2 weeks, but I fear the emotional and financial burden it would put on us.
Does it not seem crazy to jump into IVF when I have one good tube? Ok worst case scenario is it happens again, but this time round I could get HCG levels monitored? Go for early scan (instead of having to wait until week 8!) And THEN if all else fails try IVF.
Has anyone been advised no to try again? I know I won't know until I see Surgeon. But it wasn't bad news last time we spoke. Doctor has just scared me now.
Last Edit: Sept 2, 2019 9:41:59 GMT by thesecond: Spelling
Hi! I'm very sorry for your loss.. but the first thing i want to say is that there is definitely hope!!
i would not listen at all to the GP about not trying again, why?? you absolutely can! While the risk is a bit higher if you have had a previous ectopic, you still have 90% chances of the pregnancy going well!! IVF may have been suggested for your age, but before worrying about it, i'd ask the GP for a hormonal panel specifically for fertility so that you know where you stand. let me know how it goes and we are here for support if you need us. Hugs!