I don’t really know what to say,found out by fluke I was pregnant After a few months of trying and in the same week I went from super high to super low 😢
Long story short after a week of hospital visits I found out on Thursday it was EP and yesterday I was given the injection I am currently at home not knowing how I should be feeling.
I would have been seven weeks on Thursday so still very early I just want to burry my head in a pillow and cry but feel I can’t because everyone keeps telling me (meaning well) “at least it was so early baby wasn’t even developed” And cause of this I feel I can’t grieve??
I’m so sorry your going through this also .. you have every right to be so sad for the baby you have lost. I keep thinking back to last week when I thought everything was perfect and every moment was full of joy even the moments when I felt sick! When I wake up I remember what has happened and before my first thought was such happiness! I find ectopic harder than miscarriage I’ve had both and that’s just me personally not to downgrade the pain of miscarriage it’s still such a huge loss. For me I feel our baby was doing everything it could to grow but my body couldn’t do what It should have to for our baby to make it to a safe place ! I also know that there is no blame but it’s just how I feel now. As soon as you find out your expecting you plan .. your mind is just in dream land and it’s so lovely and then the rug is pulled from under you. I do have good faith and believe it will work out but we have just been given a hard road. You will be so up and down, good day bad day ; good hour bad hour!! Also when your not recovering from surgery you feel you should get on with it but please give yourself time to heal! The good news is it does get better ! My first ectopic I remember it was around 6 months after I felt like me again! I was out running and broke down in tears.. it was like I broke away from it all. Hard to explain as I had felt before that I was fine but I wasn’t !! it takes time! Also it’s hard for your husband or partner to understand I remember the first time getting angry with him as he didn’t feel the way I was! Im new to forums too I came upon this while looking for success stories after ectopic 🙈 People don’t know what to say and they say such silly things .. I remember the first time being told how lucky I was ! I didn’t feel lucky ! And at least I can get pregnant ! Just let all those unhelpful comments over your head. No one will every understand unless they have been through it. Lean on your friends tell them be open if your feel like it ! I couldn’t have done it without them. Wishing you all the best ! And again so sorry for your loss x
Hi Mayday19, I'm so sorry for your loss...it really sucks. My own experience was the same - all in one week you go from pregnant to ectopic and it's such a rollercoaster. People do mean well they just don't know what to say...so all the silly cliches come out. you hear them all...I have a son and it was when we were trying for our second I had an ectopic and heard all the usual - well at least you have one already...like that matters! Anyway, you need to focus on you and do whatever you need to get well physically and mentally. Be so kind to yourself and reach out here to us who've all been there...sending as many positive vibes youw way as i can...xxx