I am looking for any positive stories, if there are any even out there. I suffered an ectopic this week, I was 7+5 weeks pregnant, no symptoms other than some spotting at 5 weeks. It hit me out of no where and was rushed to hospital to remove the pregnancy and ruptured tube. Had loads of internal bleeding & needed blood transfusions. Was told I was very lucky I got in as quickly as I did. So say.im.devastated is an understatment as we had been trying about 18 mths, but 7 after a lap&dye to clear out old scarring. Was told both tubes were clear.
So now I have one tube left, and one ovary (other one removed yrs ago due to a cyst) but they are on opposite sides. I have googled and come across some success stories, but how realistic is it that my tube could pick up the egg from the tubeless side. Am I clutching at straws here??
We are open to ivf as I will soon be 35, but not sure if I should give some time to ttc naturally, or am I wasting my time??
I would so appreciate any insight into my predicament, thank you!
welcome to the site and very sorry to hear of your loss!! Yes it is definitely possible to fall pregnant with one ovary and one tube on opposite sides, I think we imagine them to be miles apart but they are actually very close On the IVF road it's a very personal decision and so you should follow what your guts tell you. I know I wanted to take some control over the situation and the thought of having to wait was terrible for my mental health, so we went straight to IVF when we could not conceive that quickly (I also had my clock ticking very loudly in my ear...). I would say perhaps ring up a clinic you would trust, make an appointment for the initial meeting, and then at least you are in the system. You can the decide to defer any treatment if you want to try for a bit. Keep us posted!
Thanks so much for replying to me. I was already dealing with cork fertility clinic before I fell pregnant with the ectopic, so I plan on making an appointment with my consultant to discuss my options. But I do feel, like you, I dont know if my mental health can cope with the waiting and disappointment every month. I felt like we had won the lotto when we finally conceived, do for this to have happened is beyond devastating, as you know.
Was ivf successful for you? I feel ivf is the way to go, but if I thought there was a chance naturally id possibly consider 3 mths. I know I should be focusing on my revovery right now, but the only thing I want is to be pregnant asap!
so you can read my full story here ectopicireland.ie/fs-story/, you will see that I actually had 2 ectopics following IVF...talk about life pulling your leg...but now I have two beautiful children (also following IVF as we never conceived naturally), my son is now 7 and my daughter is 5! You know one thing I would say is that now at least you know you can get pregnant. I don't know if you had my same fear, but i really thought that was something wrong with my eggs maybe, that i could not ever get pregnant.. I'm here if you need to talk. Hugs!
Oh im so sorry you had an awful time...cant believe you had 2 ectopics following ivf. How cruel. But im so glad you had your happy ending with 2 beautiful children. Yes, I feel some relief that we can get pregnant. I did worry about egg quality, and I also worried that hubs sperm didn't like my eggs. Iv heard that can happen too. So maybe I can take some positive away from such a horrible experience. Thanks again for taking the time to tell me your story, it has helped x