I have been ttc for over two and a half years now. I've had 4 pregnancies , the last three were confirmed ectopics, my first was classed as a mc (but I suspect it was started ectopic and miscarried from there). The first on my left, I had a lap and they milked the tube. The second on my right, they treated with methotrexate. The third was on my left again and I had a lap where they removed the tube.
Anyway, the reason I'm on here is to ask some advice. I'm currently on CD35 of what is without fail a 27-32 day cycle. I used OPKs this cycle and got a peak at CD 14 which means I'm 21 dpo. Still no AF. No spotting, no cramps, nothing. I've tested all week and all BFN. The last time something like this happened it was my first ectopic. I spotted on CD 36 and CD37, had a BFP on CD40 and was in hospital two days later for an emergency lap. I'm worried I'm headed for the same path. Since I'm 21dpo if I am pregnant, in a good way, there would definitely be enough hcg in my system for a BFP wouldn't there? So my only hope is that this is a freak cycle that's long. Should I go for a blood test? I'm back in work next week - I'm a teacher and commute so I'll find it difficult to schedule time off for a blood test.
I'm very sorry about this rollercoaster!! It may just be an unusually long cycle after the summer (it happens very often to many people), which HPT did you use? I'm a great believer in first response, the one that gives you a pink line...I never saw anything decent on the digital one or clear blue with very low HCG. If you are not pregnant, I would very strongly recommend that you have a hysterosonography to check that your remaining tube is open. I really worry that with so many repeated ectopics there could be some damage and, unfortunately, a significantly higher risk or reoccurrence. Please do keep me posted, if the HPT is negative, it is unlikely the pregnancy (even if ectopic) is progressing to a dangerous place but as you know your body well and have been through this before I don't want you to underestimate the risk. For the blood test you could check with your GP, I know many are reluctant to do it with a negative HPT but if you feel it will put your mind at ease I would try and get it done.
You are probably right about me underestimating the risk. It is silly of me to feel like I can 'handle' an ectopic when I've been through it so many times. You can't predict how things will go. I suppose I feel I can spot the signs of ectopic pregnancy. The tests I have used have been cheapie internet ones, Tesco own brand and clear blue standard. I have one more Tesco hpt left. I'll try that in the morning but buy a first response over the weekend to try on Monday if AF still hasn't arrived. The longer AF stays away the crazier I get. I've googled things to distraction, oscillating between fearing the dreaded spotting and feeling the all too familiar pain to being hopeful it might actually work out this time to then thinking the humdrum of AF will come and that'll be it for another cycle.
I wasn't aware women can have longer cycles at the end of the summer. Our bodies can play cruel tricks on us. After both of the laps the two surgeons said my tube looks to be healthy with no scarring. Can they tell properly from a lap? We've had an initial consultation with a fertility clinic. My AMH levels were good for my age (31) so we decided to keep trying naturally until the new year. We will assess the situation then and probably go for ivf then. With my history it will be a pure miracle if I get pregnant naturally and it doesn't end up being my fourth ectopic.
Thanks for listening Mod,
This forum has been a Godsend over the last two years. xx
Hi! Just checking in on you, how are things? As far as i know, no surgeon, during emergency surgery to treat an ectopic, performs also a test to see if the tubes are open (they would generally have to inject vaginally a liquid, normally with a dye in it, and see that it spills out of the tubes). I really don't understand why they give patients only partial information like "looks good with no scarring" which sounds to everyone as a reassuring comment, when they really should add "however i cannot tell you if your tubes in fact are open and liquids flows freely inside them".